“there was a time when the only people who text you were people you wanted to text you. …girls.
and they’d all say the same thing, ‘i’m coming over baby.’ and i would text back, ‘B.T.B. …bring. that. booty.’”— darryl, the office. (via estrellasbellas)
If I’m not happy, comfortable, etc with myself and I don’t “love” myself I don’t see why someone would want to be with me either. Some guys are like “oh well if you get with me/a man you will love yourself”. “I will make you love yourself”. “you’ll be so happy because you won’t be alone anymore”
That is absolutely not how self love works. Another person is not going to help ME love ME. And I know for a fact the guy would eventually get tired of it. So why bother? If you’re so interested, you will wait for her. Forcing a woman into a relationship is just as bad as a woman forcing a man into one. For me personally, if I were to be with someone right now as I’m working on myself - not only will I be a jealous and irrational mate - but I will not be fun to be around. I’m constantly picking on myself. “I look like crap, my hair sucks, I’m fat, I’m too short, blahblahblah” who wants to hear that? I’m perfectly fine with not dating again until I’m comfortable with myself, which I think is a more desirable trait anyway. If a guy wants me he either needs to wait or move on. I’m perfectly fine either way. Besides, I have not met a man soooo awesome that I care whether he leaves or stays.
Granted. I can see where the guy is coming from but dude you’re wrong.